Some helpful lists and suggestions for reading, watching and personal support:

CRISIS SUPPORT:

The Samaritans: Call 116 112 (24 hrs a day) or email jo@samaritans.org (response within 24hrs)

BEAT: for support with eating disorders call 0808 801 0677 (adults over 18) or for more info https://www.beateatingdisorders.org.uk/get-information-and-support/

Mind: UK-wide mental health resources: Call 0300 123 3393 and more info: https://www.mind.org.uk/need-urgent-help/using-this-tool/

shout 85258 text support: for anxiety, worry, loneliness text the word ‘Shout’ to 85258 to start a conversation - how shout works: https://giveusashout.org/get-help/how-shout-works/

Harmless: for support with self-harm and suicide prevention https://harmless.org.uk/clinical-support-services/

AA/Alanon and 12 step programmes: self-help support groups for addictions including alcohol, drugs, gambling, codependency, sex, gaming and more (Alanon and Alateen for families affected). For AA: https://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org.uk/about-aa/the-12-steps-of-aa - meetings are available at all times all over the world via Zoom

MindOUT: mental health support service run by and for lesbians, gay, bi-sexual, trans and queer people. More info: https://mindout.org.uk/

Respect: support for victims of domestic abuse and abusive behaviour in relationships. Also ‘help to become safe’ support for perpetrators https://respectphoneline.org.uk/

CALM : Campaign Against Living Miserably - support relating to suicide and here’s a link to their full resource list: https://www.thecalmzone.net/service-directory

NHS direct: If you need urgent medical help, contact the NHS on 111 for advice and support and contact the emergency services on 999 or present to any A & E if you are in immediate danger

FOR WATCHING:

Brene Brown: ‘The Power of Vulnerability’: https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_the_power_of_vulnerability?language=en

The Drama Triangle: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E_XSeUYa0-8

School of Life: ‘Feeling Stuck’: https://youtu.be/ku9gabtzmX8

Breathing Exercise for Stress & Anxiety: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eZBa63NZbbE&t=55s

FOR READING:

- ‘Seven Arguments All Couples Need to Have’, Joanna Harrison https://www.amazon.co.uk/Five-Arguments-Couples-Need-Have/dp/1788167260)

- Download SHOUT’s ‘Little Book of Coping Skills’ https://giveusashout.org/latest/little-book-coping-skills

- ‘Why Therapy Works: Using Our Minds to Change Our Brains’ - Louis Cozolino, Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/24724604-why-therapy-works?ref=nav_sb_ss_1_17

- The Relate UK Bookshop for various relationship guides: https://www.relate.org.uk/relationship-help/self-help-tools/book-shop

- ‘The Book you Wish Your Parents Had Read’ by Philippa Perry https://www.amazon.co.uk/Book-Wish-Your-Parents-Children/dp/0241250994

- Books on codependency by Melody Beattie and Pia Mellody https://melodybeattie.com/books/codependent-no-stop-controlling-others-start-caring/

-Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents Lindsay C Gibson https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/23129659

- ‘Complex PTSD - from Surviving to Thriving’ Pete Walker https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/20556323-complex-ptsd

- ‘GriefWorks - stories of life, death and surviving’ Julia Samuel. Website and app: https://griefworkscourse.com/

- ‘It Didn’t Start With You’ - how inherited family trauma shapes who we are and how to end the cycle Mark Wolynn.

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/26026054-it-didn-t-start-with-you